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Healing Grief Through Books
Contributing to Nina Crespo‘s Readers, Writers and Wellness blog event is author Selena Fulton.
As an author, I love to share the news about books with my friends. I will share announcements of new releases on my Facebook and Twitter and my blog. I love to talk about books to my friends or coworkers. I love sharing what I’ve enjoyed reading that gave me the pleasure of escaping to another world, or perhaps another time. I’ve also recommended self-help books if it has made a difference in my life and I might feel it would help someone else.
This post is about one of those books that made a difference in my life.
In January of 2012, my mother died. She wasn’t just my mom. She was my friend, my cheerleader, my confidante. And now she’s gone. As my first novel came out a few weeks ago and amid all the joy of my new release, tears fell down my cheeks one day, wishing she could see the cover, wishing she knew I finally made it.
Wishing she were here.
After Mom died, I called a friend, and we commiserated about how it feels to lose a parent. She had lost her father not too long before that and suggested I read a book called Heaven is For Real. She said it gave her comfort.
Of course, I downloaded the book and read it. It was a wonderful book and did give me some peace. But my post doesn’t end here.
Losing my mom didn’t just affect me. My dad lost his wife of 53 years that day too. We talked on the phone daily, crying together, talking, grieving. My dad and I were always close, but now we’re even closer. Sometimes he even goes to church with us.
But what really hit me today as I consider what to write for this post was something he said this morning. I speak to him every morning on my way to work, even though this week he’s out of town visiting his sisters. He told me how his sister suggested he read Heaven is For Real and asked if I’d heard about it?
Um, yeah.
You know, I don’t know if I’d mentioned the book to him or not. Those months following Mom’s passing are a blur for me, but this morning, I was thrilled. I told him I’d read the book and it was very good. I was excited about the thought of him reading it.
He told me when he gets home, one thing he’s going to do is renew his library card, and then he’s going to check out Heaven is For Real. Not only do I think he will find some comfort from this book as I did, something else makes me happy about this news.
You see, one of the things Mom and Dad shared during their long marriage was their love of books. He hadn’t been reading much since she died, because it made him miss her. So I am very happy to see that he is following his passion again. I’m happy to see he will be visiting the library again.
All because of books.
Selena Fulton enjoys camping, morning strolls along the seashore, making jewelry, and reading. A multi-published author, she belongs to First Coast Romance Writers and Romance Writers of America. Currently VP of Membership and past Secretary for First Coast Romance Writers, she believes in “paying it forward” by working with fellow authors in her critique groups and judging contests.
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Embracing My Inner Bookworm
Nina Crespo welcomes guest blogger Amanda Byrne, author of One Night in Buenos Aires, to the Reader, Writer and Wellness blog event.
I was having dinner with my family a few weeks ago when my parents started talking about planning a family camping trip. Somehow this led to a conversation about camping in general, and I think I made a comment about how easily bored I got on our past trips. To which my sister replied that her memories of our childhood camping trips involved me sitting around the campfire with a book in my hand.
You know what? Those are my memories, too.
I’ve loved reading since I memorized Go, Dog. Go! at age 4, but reading, for me, really took off when I discovered chapter books in elementary school. Nancy Drew, the Ramona Quimby novels, The Baby-Sitters Club…I still have the gorgeous full color illustrated copy of Frances Hodgson Burnett’s A Little Princess that my best friend gave me when we were kids (and it’s still one of my favorite books).
As I grew older, my tastes changed, but I never stopped reading. And now days, it’s pretty much the only time I can turn my brain off. My day job gives me a fair amount of stress, and I’m a very distracted writer, so being able to just drop into someone else’s world and stay there for a while gives me a welcome break from life. The end of the day, when I get to shut off my laptop and ignore the phone, the dishes, and everything else, where I’m curled up on the couch with a book or my Kindle – that’s my favorite time of day.
When my sister moved across the country with her now-husband, I’d loan her books from my shelves and send her pages filled with other recommendations she could get from her local library. I started a blog several years ago and posted occasional reviews of books I’d read, and my coworkers and I constantly trade book recommendations.
Those random posts and recommendations evolved into full on book reviews, and about two years ago, I joined Vampire Book Club as a reviewer. I’m a fast reader, which means I read a lot. I’ve been known to glom whole series in a span of days (I read three of the four available Fever series books by Karen Marie Moning in a 36 hour period once. Talk about a book hangover). I regularly post reviews on my own blog, Byrne After Reading. I kind of have to. When I read a book I love, I go into total fangirl mode and can’t stop yammering about it. I recently bugged my critique partner until she caved to peer pressure and read a couple of books I’d been talking about for a while. When it seemed like everyone at Vampire Book Club but me had read Written in Red by Anne Bishop, I gave in and read it, too. Then I immediately turned over my copy to a friend because it was so original and engaging that I had to talk to someone about it or I’d go nuts. The same goes for books that turn me off – I’m still warning people way from books I read years ago, they bothered me that much.
Talking about books – whether I’m recommending them or warning people away from them – is a piece of the whole for me when it comes to reading. It’s not enough to read a book. I need to talk about it, too, whether it made me smile or made me throw the book at the wall. I want people to get the same things I’m getting from those stories, and the only way that’ll happen is if I talk about it.
And I’m always on the lookout for book recs, so tell me, what are you reading now?
About Amanda K. Byrne: When she’s not plotting ways to sneak her latest shoe purchase past her partner, Amanda writes sexy, snarky romance and urban fantasy. She likes her heroines smart and unafraid to make mistakes, and her heroes strong enough to take them on. If she’s not writing, she’s reading, drinking hot chocolate, and trying not to destroy her house with her newest DIY project. She lives in the beautiful Pacific Northwest, and no, it really doesn’t rain that much.
The Things I Should Do
Nina Crespo welcomes guest blogger Lynn Cahoon, author of the Tourist Trap Mystery series, to the Readers, Writers and Wellness blog event.
We all have a list. Lose ten pounds. Exercise more. Eat more fruits and vegetables. But as we all know, life gets in the way.
For me, right now, life is kicking my butt. I just got off deadline, have another book due before end of year, and work a day job. Finding time to walk the dogs can be a struggle, let alone find time to go to the gym or put a fitness video into the DVR.
Yet I know, it’s those things that will help me reach the items on the list. And, I know one more thing. As a breast cancer survivor, I have to prioritize my health, just like I make my daily word count.
In 2006, we moved from Idaho to Illinois. I got a new job, and then, when my insurance kicked in, I scheduled appointments with all new doctors. I even got a mammogram. When I got the letter in the mail saying everything was okay, I almost threw it away unopened. I shudder to think what would have happened if I had.
Because it wasn’t a thanks for coming in letter. It was a return for more tests letter. Within a week, I had been diagnosed. I had cancer. I also had a new job with little to no vacation or sick time. I didn’t qualify for the short-term disability program as I hadn’t been there a year. In fact, I didn’t even qualify for the federal family leave act because of my short tenure. My employer could have said, sorry about your luck and come back if you live.
But they didn’t. They worked with me through my surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation that year. When I hit a year, I actually had leave allowing me to get paid when I ran to doctor appointment or to get blood drawn. At the end of chemo when my body was totally exhausted, I was admitted to the hospital for three days. The day after I was released, I returned to work. Because I had to – Financially and mentally.
2007 was the year of cancer. So 2008 became the year of fun. But still, I wasn’t living healthy.
So I started walking. And then I added fruits and veggies to my diet. I cut out most alcohol. (I still enjoy a beer every now and then.) These small steps helped me lose most of the weight I’d gained during the year of cancer.
Since that time, I’ve had gains and losses. But I’ve learned a few things I’d like to pass on to you.
First – Practice Turtle Thinking: You know, slow and steady wins the race? This hint works for weight loss and writing. I’m always more excited to write on days where I know where the book is heading. Developing a daily writing habit makes me a healthier writer. Developing a daily exercise habit makes me a healthier person.
Second – Practice Scale Living: Not the bathroom scales. You need to balance your life. For me it’s a mixture of work, writing, me time, family, and fun. Typically fun gets the short stick in my house. My husband and I bought four-wheelers for our anniversary and we’ve spent a summer having fun. You don’t have to go to that extreme, but really, when was the last time you did something like fly a kite or go swimming?
Third – Love Yourself Today: Good or bad, heavy or skinny, you need to accept who you are today to move past the fear of becoming a better version of you. I can’t count the number of times I’ve held off buying a new coat or a pair of jeans until I lose weight. Be the best person you can be now. And later.
After surviving breast cancer, I have one boob (can I say boob here?) that’s bigger than the other. I have scars from surgery and the port where they took blood. Mentally, I have other scars. Walking into the hospital for my semi-annual well baby checks, I always worry. Is this the time they’ll find something strange. I’m by nature pretty positive, but not on those doctor appointment days.
I’m a different person than I was in 2006. Now, I’m a survivor.
So, readers, your turn. What one thing are you going to stop beating yourself up about today?
USA Today and New York Times, best-selling author, Lynn Cahoon is an Idaho native. If you’d visit the town where she grew up, you’d understand why her mysteries and romance novels focus around the depth and experience of small town life. Currently, she’s living in a small historic town on the banks of the Mississippi river where her imagination tends to wander. She lives with her husband and four fur babies.
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When a Crisis with Your Health Adds New Life to Your Characters.
Nina Crespo welcomes guest blogger Linda Bond, author of Alive at 5, who will be kicking off the week-long Readers, Writers and Wellness blog event.
Readers love to relate to the characters they are reading about. Give your hero a flaw that makes him a little less than perfect, and he’ll seem more real, the kind of man a woman can fall in love with. Give your heroine a problem she’s too embarrassed to share, and you’ve made her more relatable.
Twice in my life I’ve faced debilitating health problems, one more life threatening than the other, but both found their way into my writing. In my just released romantic suspense novel Alive at 5, my heroine Samantha Steele suffers panic attacks. This is a big problem since her profession is to report the news on the air, and the panic attacks hit right as she’s about to go live.
It’s a struggle I had to work through personally. Imagine sitting on the anchor desk and your heart starts to race, you begin to sweat, and your mouth goes dry, making it hard to read the stories rolling through the TV news prompter. Nothing like losing your **** in front of thousands. It’s humbling.
I had to learn to breathe and regain control over my hijacked thoughts, which would start 
racing around like bumper cars on jet fuel. Now, when something happens live on the air, I know how to slow down my thoughts and my breathing before they start affecting my ability to do my job. Making Samantha Steele work through her panic attacks, something she had to overcome both with and without the hero’s help, gave her one more layer of depth, and one more flaw the reader can connect with.
My second health crisis happened three years ago. A diagnosis of breast cancer at 44. It brought me to my knees and challenged me in ways I’d never imagined.
In my current work in progress, EYEwitness, my heroine is a 28-year-old woman who had a double mastectomy after a breast cancer diagnosis. Like me, my heroine watched her mother die from breast cancer and only wanted to dance with this devil once. What the heroine didn’t count on was the physical and emotional scars that come with fighting cancer and going through invasive surgeries to remove your breasts. When her first love comes back, she hides her scars and the truth, thinking her first love couldn’t love a less perfect her. Working through that emotional internal war is what makes my heroine grow.
My hope is to use this book as a platform to show women that scars are not ugly and do not make you ugly. They are badges of honor, bravery and courage. And for many, they are the tattoos that symbolize a win in a battle for your life. My husband tells me I’m sexier today than ever before. And I’ve learned to embrace that as my new truth. I’m still writing EYEwitness, but I know my heroine will too.
Linda Bond ~ Her romantic side is a thrilling place to be.
Linda Bond is an Emmy award winning journalist by day and an author of romantic adventures by night. She’s also the mother of five, four athletes and an adopted son from Cuba. She has a passion for world travel, classic movies, and alpha males. Linda currently lives in Florida, where the sun always shines and the day begins with endless possibilities. You can become a Bond girl and share in her continuing adventures at www.lindabond.com.
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Reading, Writing and Wellness
Reading, Writing and Wellness will be the featured topic on my Nocturnal Nina blog the week of September 29th-October 3rd. I’ll share guest posts from fellow authors Linda Bond, Lynn Cahoon, Marcie Kremer, Selena Fulton, Megan Morgan, and Amanda K. Byrne.
Take a mini break from your busy day, and enjoy their thoughts on how reading a good book, writing a great story or making room for balance has added happiness, laughter and valuable lessons to their lives.
Wellness is important to me, and like many, I’ve experienced health issues and disappointments. Instead of telling you the details, I’ll share the truths I’ve learned on my personal wellness journey.
** As long as the body has breath it strives to heal itself.
** Beliefs can create biology as well as my circumstances.
** It’s hard to move forward if I’m always looking back.
** Never confuse inconvenience with impossibility.
**I am. I will. I can!
Number four is a challenge. It’s easy to prioritize plotting the next story over a nice long walk or a trip to the gym. Bad habits show up on my doorstep the same day my characters decide not to cooperate. Convenience versus what’s good for my body and mind tempts me in the midst of tight deadlines.
I’m embracing the challenge because I realize I’m a work in progress. Life is an unfolding journey. Instead of dwelling on the past, I give myself a good hard nudge in the right direction. I take another shot, another step, another chance. You can, too. I believe in you. Let’s do this!
Need more inspiration? Stop by and read the guest posts featured September 29th-October 3rd. In the mean time, enjoy life and all the good things that happen at night!
I Want It
Find out what I want on my final stop of the TAKE ME IF YOU DARE blog tour. Thank you to Just Contemporary Romance for hosting my guest post, “I Want It.”
I’ll be back in a couple of weeks to share a few thoughts. Until then, enjoy the night!
